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Domestic violence in Islam poses several questions.

Does the Ko-ran permit husbands to hit their wives, or not?
"... all societies have domestic violence; however, Is-lamic societies have it enshrined in their eternal word of All-ah, unlike, say, the New Testament, which does not have even a faint hint of it. With such divine endorsement from All-ah, can Is-lam reform on this matter?"

What exactly does the Ko-ran say hmmm......

Sura 4:34
"4:34 Husbands should take full care of their wives, with [the bounties] God has given to some more than others and with what they spend out of their own money. Righteous wives are devout and guard what God would have them guard in the husbands’ absence. If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them. If they obey you, you have no right to act against them. God is most high and great.

4:34 ... As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly) ...

The early traditions confirm that hitting wives actually happened and was sanctioned in Mu-hammad’s day and in his community. Domestic violence runs deeply and early in Is-lam..

All in all, the earliest traditions, representing others, allow husbands to hit their wives, so the difficulties in Sura 4:34 have an additional historical context and cannot be explained away from that standpoint. Domestic violence sits at the heart of Is-lam, not at its periphery.

However, if Mus-lims are reluctant to reform or to deny passages in the Qu-ran, they must avoid a dubious approach to uninformed Westerners: they must never soft-sell or whitewash domestic violence and other violence in the origins and core of their religion, some of which, like jihad, Mu-hammad himself engaged in – not in the periphery of their religion.."


Domestic violence...nice term isnt it?
How bout we jus say men (predominantly) hitting, beating, raping, pushing, shoving, molesting, sexually and physically torturing women and children...
Yes. That's more like it.
This should not happen to anybody. Ever. Period.

For those who wish some claification:
Examples of abusive behavior include: name-calling or putdowns,stalking , intimidation oftentimes keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends, withholding money and stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job, threatened or actual physical harm ,and sexual assault.

This is in fact a reality in the Muzlim community and condoned by the "teachings"...Evasions, denials, and defensiveness, entirely miss the point and simply do not suffice.


Domestic Violence states the following:There is a problem with posting such info for sisters here in the states. When sisters are fleeing from an abusive husband, the perpetrating husband will make efforts to continue his violence upon her and her children, and try to follow them. If he finds out where she is, then not only is her life in danger, but also the lives of the other battered women who are seeking shelter and time to recover from their experiences. I can't speak for other places, but here in the USA batterers take care of each other and if one were to become aware of the location of such places, he would "spread the news.."

There are numerous brave women's sites offering Muzlim women assistance and fearfully acknowledging the horrific problem.

We do know one thing for certain: Violence against women is a result of men's anger. It is a man's way of avoiding his own sense of inadequacy.

We know another thing: It is learned behavior.

So, I ask you my friends...- What do these Muzlim men feel so inadequate about...and where are they "learning" this behavior?




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