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When women are depressed, they either eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. It's a whole different way of thinking. --Elaine Boosler

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

No Where to RuN Nowhere to HidE

Domestic violence in Islam poses several questions.

Does the Ko-ran permit husbands to hit their wives, or not?
"... all societies have domestic violence; however, Is-lamic societies have it enshrined in their eternal word of All-ah, unlike, say, the New Testament, which does not have even a faint hint of it. With such divine endorsement from All-ah, can Is-lam reform on this matter?"

What exactly does the Ko-ran say hmmm......

Sura 4:34
"4:34 Husbands should take full care of their wives, with [the bounties] God has given to some more than others and with what they spend out of their own money. Righteous wives are devout and guard what God would have them guard in the husbands’ absence. If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them. If they obey you, you have no right to act against them. God is most high and great.

4:34 ... As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly) ...

The early traditions confirm that hitting wives actually happened and was sanctioned in Mu-hammad’s day and in his community. Domestic violence runs deeply and early in Is-lam..

All in all, the earliest traditions, representing others, allow husbands to hit their wives, so the difficulties in Sura 4:34 have an additional historical context and cannot be explained away from that standpoint. Domestic violence sits at the heart of Is-lam, not at its periphery.

However, if Mus-lims are reluctant to reform or to deny passages in the Qu-ran, they must avoid a dubious approach to uninformed Westerners: they must never soft-sell or whitewash domestic violence and other violence in the origins and core of their religion, some of which, like jihad, Mu-hammad himself engaged in – not in the periphery of their religion.."

Domestic violence...nice term isnt it?
How bout we jus say men (predominantly) hitting, beating, raping, pushing, shoving, molesting, sexually and physically torturing women and children...
Yes. That's more like it.
This should not happen to anybody. Ever. Period.

For those who wish some claification:
Examples of abusive behavior include: name-calling or putdowns,stalking , intimidation oftentimes keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends, withholding money and stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job, threatened or actual physical harm ,and sexual assault.

This is in fact a reality in the Muzlim community and condoned by the "teachings"...Evasions, denials, and defensiveness, entirely miss the point and simply do not suffice.

Domestic Violence
states the following:There is a problem with posting such info for sisters here in the states. When sisters are fleeing from an abusive husband, the perpetrating husband will make efforts to continue his violence upon her and her children, and try to follow them. If he finds out where she is, then not only is her life in danger, but also the lives of the other battered women who are seeking shelter and time to recover from their experiences. I can't speak for other places, but here in the USA batterers take care of each other and if one were to become aware of the location of such places, he would "spread the news.."

There are numerous brave women's sites offering Muzlim women assistance and fearfully acknowledging the horrific problem.

We do know one thing for certain: Violence against women is a result of men's anger. It is a man's way of avoiding his own sense of inadequacy.

We know another thing: It is learned behavior.

So, I ask you my friends...- What do these Muzlim men feel so inadequate about...and where are they "learning" this behavior?

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  • At 7:31 PM, Blogger K T Cat said…

    I think they do it because they can. Sort of like the way we jaywalk. It's an easy way to get what you want and it always works.

  • At 8:20 PM, Blogger LomaAlta said…

    Muslims are taught by their religion and their society to hold women as property and in contempt.

    So don't be surprised when they practice what is preached and what is accepted.

    The only to end this practice is to separate their society from their religion.

  • At 8:37 PM, Blogger kevin said…

    Tabari IX:113 “Allah permits you to shut them in separate rooms and to beat them, but not severely. If they abstain, they have the right to food and clothing. Treat women well for they are like domestic animals and they possess nothing themselves. Allah has made the enjoyment of their bodies lawful in his Qur’an.”

    Qur’an 24:1 “(This is) a surah which We have revealed and made obligatory and in which We have revealed clear communications that you may be mindful. For the woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allah. And let a party of the Believers witness their punishment.”

    Ishaq:496 “Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.’ So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, ‘Tell the Apostle the truth.’”

    People raised to think this will follow suit. It's sad.

  • At 10:52 PM, Blogger Gayle said…

    Rebekah, you have outdone yourself with this post!

    Muslims are living the same exact way their ancestors lived since the beginning. The brainwashing is totally embedded. I don't know what the answer is, but it's certainly not going to be easy to get them away from this sort of behavior.

    It's tragic and sad that it's a "religion." They feel that if they treat their women like property they are only following the word of God.

  • At 3:45 AM, Blogger kevin said…


    shocking report.

  • At 5:59 AM, Blogger The Ugly American said…

    Great post!

    This is one of the many problems Islam is facing. The religion needs a reformation. The question is how long will it be before this happens?

  • At 10:01 AM, Blogger Brooke said…

    This is just one of the most sickening aspects of Islam. No one deserves to be beaten. Period.

    What recourse shall the wife have if her husband is unfair, or does not execute his duties?

    Oh, that's right: NONE. She is chattel.

    How insulting to think that God would make her as an animal, or possesion; it is an afront to His creation!

  • At 3:28 PM, Blogger PARKAVE said…

    once something is accepted as normal it may be difficult to change. Its most likely viewed in the muslim culture as something which is normal and accepted. If one accepts such a premise, it may be that muslim men are not especially inadequate.
    Is it not accepted inl our culture to hit ones child. Does anyone really believe that when they take out their anger on the child they will accomplish anything.


  • At 8:30 PM, Blogger Karl m said…

    THe truth is ,to the mmmooosssszzlimm man their donkeys and camels are much to big, and probably hit back, so for a man with no self-value or self-esteem they must victimize the weak and the defenseless, to elevate themselves slightly above rodent. Let us be honest the men have absolutely no respect for the women because their "civilization" does not condone any level of equality.


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